Our side is also 'greener' !

This is my first post.. hopefully a non emotional, non rambling rational one :)

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Comparisons.. As an Indian, we were born and grew up with it all along, that it has been following us faithfully like our shadows. In fact, over time we have actually been consumed by it and WE have become the shadows and the comparison is perhaps leading us!

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What we currently do always looks tough in relative to what we have 'successfully' passed, that is, once the next task is over. For eg, once we start our midschool, primary school looks a cake walk and when we write our board exams, midschool was more fun and easy, and when we nervously sit before the comp for those semester results during our respective degrees (remember that one exam or perhaps more than one, in which you got a nonsense paper or had a bad day and had to bribe Lord Ganesh, a 100 situps to make sure you clear it?), XII exams did not look that hard. Yes, the repercussions at each stage were quite different and had different influences. But, once the hurdle had been crossed and we take up the next one, we always tend to feel the last one was easier...

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And so what's the point? What has it to do with the title? It doesn't stop with personal comparisons.. The title was to intend a dig at "Grass looks greener on the other side" .. Just like how we discount our previous hardships as easy when compared to the present ones, which is perhaps not quite correct as we are comparing two different scenarios in which our capacities were quite different, we make the mistake of comparing our life with others..

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People who are at work, tend to compare their life with those who study. They think while they are slogging for their boss, to earn their pay cheques, their friends are perhaps having a great time playing sports and what not.. The same way those who study think of their friends who work, wondering when they are still studying and cramming for the exams, the folks who work are cool, they earn a lot and enjoy life.. (I am not a sage here and I have fallen prey for this many a times and perhaps still falling)

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What I have listed is just one example of a very common comparison.. There are many such comparisons between jobs, between students, between personalities, between couples and whatever you can dream of. The truth is both of them (the comparing parties) are wrong (though not fully).. the reverse comparison actually shows that their side is greener and that is what is my post about..

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To generalize and take it to a more abstract level, happiness is more from within and it is YOU who decides which is greener.. that is not to say you must be complacent about your status quo and do nothing about it.. Constructive criticism will always be helpful .. It helps in making your side more greener and you do it not because you are worried about the other side being green..

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I think you will enjoy life from this perspective.. This life is about YOU and about YOUR happiness.. You do not need to feel sad about your relative position when compared to others..